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Writing on trauma, sex and sexuality, relationships, somatics, and nervous system healing
Honest and compassionate insights for people who want to understand themselves more deeply, and for those supporting others through trauma, change, and healing.
Stop pathologising our pleasure: Where the medical model of care goes wrong with Kink & BDSM
There’s a long and messy history of the medical system of care getting it wrong when it comes to human sexuality.
31/07/2025
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Not all pain is trauma: Understanding BDSM and Kink
Here’s a common myth about BDSM and Kink, and why it’s not the whole story. Learn why not all pain is trauma…
08/07/2025
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How trauma affects memory: Explicit memory vs implicit memory
Our memory systems help us learn, adapt, and survive. They’re a bit like a filing cabinet for our life experiences, helping us to sort and organise events and learnings so we can recall them when required. But when we experience trauma, this process can be disrupted. Learn more…
16/06/2025
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Hypersexuality, avoidance, dissociation: Why these are trauma responses and not ‘negative behaviours’
If you’ve ever judged yourself for how you react in intimacy or relationships, this one’s for you. These aren’t negative behaviours, they’re…
14/05/2025
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Why you keep freezing in conflict and why it actually makes a lot of sense
If you freeze during arguments or tense conversations, you’re not alone, and you’re not broken. This blog explores how trauma shapes our conflict responses…
06/05/2025
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Rebuilding a felt sense of safety in the body after sexual trauma
You might be surviving day to day, doing what needs to be done. On the outside, everything seems fine. But inside, you feel numb…
11/04/2025
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Women struggle to initiate sex. Men struggle to stop watching porn. What if we were all just set up?
Sex is a topic that, for many of us, brings up some discomfort and vulnerability. When difficulties with sex happen in our relationships…
21/03/2025
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Why You’re Feeling Stuck.
You’re going about your daily life. You’re surviving, not thriving. You get up, go to work, and your relationships are okay. But you wonder where the passion…
01/02/2025
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Functional Freeze and Sexual Trauma
Imagine standing on a path you want to walk so….
10/11/2024
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Why Trauma Makes It Hard to Say No?
It’s hard to say no, especially when it comes to….
07/09/2024
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Honoured as one of Perth’s Best & New Role at Brainz Magazine!
From podcast and workshop appearances to becoming a contributor at Brainz Mag, what a couple of weeks it has been!
01/08/2024
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Breaking the Silence: Navigating the Truths and Myths of Rape
Please take care if continuing to read. What is rape?….
28/04/2024
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Online counselling – yay or nay?
Online counselling and psychotherapy sessions have become the norm since….
16/03/2024
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The Heart of the Matter: Understanding the Body’s Memory Bank
Isn’t it fascinating how our bodies seem to carry the….
24/02/2024
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