I’ve sat in front of a therapist who was more interested in my story because it intrigued him more than helping me. I’ve spoken about my sex life to a counsellor and watched her become uncomfortable. I’ve had to make up stories with health professionals because I wasn’t sure they would understand and felt judged.

I’ve tried to talk to friends about my life, my traumas, about my relationships and my journey from ‘vanilla’ to ‘kinky’ – some got it, some didn’t. Its such a weird line to walk on these days.

This is why it matters to me that you don’t filter your words. You, your partners and your community deserve therapists who you can be honest with – and this is speaking from experience.

There is nothing worse than being in a room where you need to hide yourself

We were taught what we want or need isn’t for us – especially when it came to sex. Some adults decided it was for them to decide what was ours to keep and what was ours to take away.

And now? Now we are no different, we still hide our needs by fawning or freezing, by not being able to express ourselves daily let alone in the bedroom.

This is why YOU need to take your life back – to live, to thrive, to experience joy and all the other emotions. Your trauma does not need to run your life anymore.

I will be honest with you, this work is difficult. Sometimes you will want to hide. You will want to stay in feelings you’re used to, because that’s easier than feeling new ones. Anger allows an outlet. Sadness allows you to hide. But I have seen breakthroughs, tears and words clients have been holding back for years, because they finally felt safe enough to let them out.

Kellie works from our Midland office or Australia wide online on a 7 day fortnight. Week one – Monday – Thursday and week two Tuesday – Thursday.

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